Let’s take a moment, take a breath, and lay down some hard truths about life.
In general, it’s up to every single person how they want to experience life. Sure, things happen to us, and mental health is an absolute bitch, but at the end of our life, we will either be fulfilled by what we did in our life, or we won’t.
That means people can live their lives (no matter what happens) in two different ways: fulfilled or hungry.
Let’s talk about what that means.
“Hungry” people are those who look at someone and only see how that person can help *them.* They seek out people they believe will benefit them, or make them feel good, or help them get ahead, etc, etc. But no matter how much they get, hungry people will always feel slighted by the world because they always want more. There are never enough favors you can do for someone like this, never enough attention you can give, never enough praise you can say or text. They are always seeking MORE from the world, and the moment you do not benefit them, or you disagree with them, or you aren’t able or willing to help in the way they want, they will cut you out of their life — but it won’t make them feel better. They will always be hungry, always be grabbing for anything they can get to try and fill that hole inside them, but taking from the world only makes the hunger worse.
Because ‘taking’ is not ‘fulfilling.’
So, let’s talk about “fulfilling” people. These are the people who see another human and look for a way to help. They see a problem and want to help solve it, without expecting anything in return. They are willing to move slower, to sacrifice a win, to miss an opportunity, just to reach down and lift someone up with them. “Fulfilling” people are never empty because they are satisfied by the impact they have on those around them. They support, love, encourage, and help others stand tall because it makes the world better. They offer up their time, their skills, and more, because they sincerely want to make someone else’s day better. And living every day like that, putting good out no matter how bad things get, means every day they feel fulfilled.
Because ‘giving’ is better than ‘receiving.’
You’ve probably heard that, or some version of it, many times in your life — but it’s the truth. It’s why we get more excited to watch a friend open a gift than we are to open a gift to us. Improving the lives of others improves us. Giving a random compliment to another person makes *us* feel good. Putting good out into the world brings good back.
All of us are going to die someday. Life is one adventure where no one gets out alive, and in the end you will either still be hungry, or you will be fulfilled, and every day you make choices that lead you one direction or the other.
I choose to be fulfilled. I choose love. I choose hope. I choose friends and fun and compliments and hugs and all the good things that make me feel warm whenever the darkest thoughts invade my mind. We’re in charge. We choose.
So, ask yourself, what choices are you making?
(artwork from my bff of 20+ years, inspired by this post)